{"id":2007,"date":"2023-10-14T18:50:49","date_gmt":"2023-10-14T07:50:49","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/claritymbs.com.au\/?p=2007"},"modified":"2023-11-04T13:43:28","modified_gmt":"2023-11-04T02:43:28","slug":"connecting-with-our-kids","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/claritymbs.com.au\/?p=2007","title":{"rendered":"Connecting with our Kids"},"content":{"rendered":"\t\t<div data-elementor-type=\"wp-post\" data-elementor-id=\"2007\" class=\"elementor elementor-2007\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-3a5b2c22 e-flex e-con-boxed e-con e-parent\" data-id=\"3a5b2c22\" data-element_type=\"container\" data-settings=\"{&quot;content_width&quot;:&quot;boxed&quot;}\" data-core-v316-plus=\"true\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"e-con-inner\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-5d8a2ed6 elementor-widget elementor-widget-image\" data-id=\"5d8a2ed6\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"image.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t<style>\/*! 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elementor - v3.16.0 - 17-10-2023 *\/\n.elementor-heading-title{padding:0;margin:0;line-height:1}.elementor-widget-heading .elementor-heading-title[class*=elementor-size-]>a{color:inherit;font-size:inherit;line-height:inherit}.elementor-widget-heading .elementor-heading-title.elementor-size-small{font-size:15px}.elementor-widget-heading .elementor-heading-title.elementor-size-medium{font-size:19px}.elementor-widget-heading .elementor-heading-title.elementor-size-large{font-size:29px}.elementor-widget-heading .elementor-heading-title.elementor-size-xl{font-size:39px}.elementor-widget-heading .elementor-heading-title.elementor-size-xxl{font-size:59px}<\/style><h2 class=\"elementor-heading-title elementor-size-default\">What can get in the way of having a good connection with our kids?<\/h2>\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-5b6b59a e-flex e-con-boxed e-con e-parent\" data-id=\"5b6b59a\" data-element_type=\"container\" data-settings=\"{&quot;content_width&quot;:&quot;boxed&quot;}\" data-core-v316-plus=\"true\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"e-con-inner\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-613d66c6 elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"613d66c6\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t<style>\/*! elementor - v3.16.0 - 17-10-2023 *\/\n.elementor-widget-text-editor.elementor-drop-cap-view-stacked .elementor-drop-cap{background-color:#69727d;color:#fff}.elementor-widget-text-editor.elementor-drop-cap-view-framed .elementor-drop-cap{color:#69727d;border:3px solid;background-color:transparent}.elementor-widget-text-editor:not(.elementor-drop-cap-view-default) .elementor-drop-cap{margin-top:8px}.elementor-widget-text-editor:not(.elementor-drop-cap-view-default) .elementor-drop-cap-letter{width:1em;height:1em}.elementor-widget-text-editor .elementor-drop-cap{float:left;text-align:center;line-height:1;font-size:50px}.elementor-widget-text-editor .elementor-drop-cap-letter{display:inline-block}<\/style>\t\t\t\t<ul><li>The need to be a perfect parent.<\/li><li>The need to be in control.<\/li><li>Parenting unconsciously through our old programs, traumas etc. Awareness of these can help.<\/li><li>The need for our kids to be perfect and we end up trying to fix them.<\/li><li>Caught up in our stress, worry \u2013 so not being present.<\/li><li>Being aware of unrealistic expectations we have on ourselves and our kids. They are going to get things wrong, make mistakes, make stupid decisions.<\/li><li>Not properly listening to what our kids are saying (even if it appears trivial), what they need (no what we think they need).<\/li><li>When we make our life too busy and we don\u2019t have time to be present.<\/li><\/ul>\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-1cae825 e-flex e-con-boxed e-con e-parent\" data-id=\"1cae825\" data-element_type=\"container\" data-settings=\"{&quot;content_width&quot;:&quot;boxed&quot;}\" data-core-v316-plus=\"true\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"e-con-inner\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-78d7081 elementor-widget elementor-widget-heading\" data-id=\"78d7081\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"heading.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t<h2 class=\"elementor-heading-title elementor-size-default\">So how can we have greater connection with our kids?<\/h2>\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-07ffe8c e-flex e-con-boxed e-con e-parent\" data-id=\"07ffe8c\" data-element_type=\"container\" data-settings=\"{&quot;content_width&quot;:&quot;boxed&quot;}\" data-core-v316-plus=\"true\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"e-con-inner\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-ba42b18 elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"ba42b18\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<ul><li>Practicing greater presence in our day, and it may only be moments.<\/li><li>When our kids speak to us, stop and really listen. Don\u2019t lecture, but ask questions, show curiosity.<\/li><li>Recognise there is a time to do and a time to slow.<\/li><li>Be aware when our child triggers something in us. Ask ourselves curiously, what\u2019s that about?\u00a0 What within myself has been hurt, pushed etc.<\/li><li>Be aware when a child is misbehaving or emotional. Again be curious, what\u2019s happening for them before we react.\u00a0 Not into fix it mode immediately, because this says there is something wrong.<\/li><li>Misbehaviour will often be a direct result of poor connection \u2013 they don\u2019t feel heard, understood, loved or respected.<\/li><\/ul>\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>What can get in the way of having a good connection with our kids? The need to be a perfect parent. The need to be in control. Parenting unconsciously through our old programs, traumas etc. Awareness of these can help. The need for our kids to be perfect and we end up trying to fix &hellip;<\/p>\n<p class=\"read-more\"> <a class=\"\" href=\"https:\/\/claritymbs.com.au\/?p=2007\"> <span class=\"screen-reader-text\">Connecting with our Kids<\/span> Read More &raquo;<\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"site-sidebar-layout":"default","site-content-layout":"","ast-site-content-layout":"default","site-content-style":"default","site-sidebar-style":"default","ast-global-header-display":"","ast-banner-title-visibility":"","ast-main-header-display":"","ast-hfb-above-header-display":"","ast-hfb-below-header-display":"","ast-hfb-mobile-header-display":"","site-post-title":"","ast-breadcrumbs-content":"","ast-featured-img":"","footer-sml-layout":"","theme-transparent-header-meta":"","adv-header-id-meta":"","stick-header-meta":"","header-above-stick-meta":"","header-main-stick-meta":"","header-below-stick-meta":"","astra-migrate-meta-layouts":"set","footnotes":""},"categories":[7],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-2007","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-parenting"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/claritymbs.com.au\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/2007","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/claritymbs.com.au\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/claritymbs.com.au\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/claritymbs.com.au\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/claritymbs.com.au\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=2007"}],"version-history":[{"count":13,"href":"https:\/\/claritymbs.com.au\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/2007\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":2085,"href":"https:\/\/claritymbs.com.au\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/2007\/revisions\/2085"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/claritymbs.com.au\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=2007"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/claritymbs.com.au\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcategories&post=2007"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/claritymbs.com.au\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Ftags&post=2007"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}